I had one of those moments the other day when I didn’t know quite what to say. What do you say when you child comes out with something they really shouldn’t?
My 11 year old son was happily playing on the Xbox when he came out with “I’ve just tea bagged you”.
What??? my husband and I just looked at each other with a “did I just hear that right?”
We calmly asked him to repeat what he had said, er yes that is exactly what he said.
Oh dear me, what do you say to that? I know for a fact we certainly have never come out with that around him, where did he get it from from?
We explained to him that he really shouldn’t be saying that phrase without explaining what it actually meant (we asked him if he new what it meant and he said no). There was no way I was expaibing that one.
Where do you draw the line though? When I was a kid that would have been a standard bar of soap in the mouth moment. I have to confess aswell that even though it shocked us we couldn’t help laughing out of earshot. That is the last thing I expected my child to come out with.
The question the whole incident has raised though is how do you deal with indesirable language? I don’t want to draw attention to it, but in the same breath I don’t want to run the risk of him coming out with it at school.
For now we have explained to him that what he said refers to something very rude, but I really don’t want to explain to him what it actually means. My thoughts are drawn between should we explaining to him why it is something he shouldn’t be coming out with i.e. Do you explain what it actually means, or just tell him don’t say that it’s rude?
My instinct tells me I want to keep him as innocent for as long as possible, however he is starting secondary school in a few days and I know that innocence is limited.
For now I feel I have a set standard that I can enforce but how do I extend that beyond the home? Is it naive of me to think that I can? I don’t know? I would like to think that I could encourage my children to refrain from such language but who knows what they get up to when you are not around.
I don’t think it helps that the boundaries with which films are rated are no where near as strict as they used to be. What is now a 12 certainly wouldn’t have passed as that when I was a kid.
Right now I’m settling for setting clear boundaries of what language is exceptable in the home and what isn’t. I know there is going to come a time when that won’t be so easy.
How do you deal with bad language? Do you ignore it or would you explain to your child why they shouldn’t be saying it? Help a shocked mummy out here, please!